Romantic relationships are rarely smooth sailing. Whilst they often begin with wonderful feelings of hope and connection, often over time and with different life stressors, couples find they get caught in negative patterns of interaction. These negative patterns might include regular arguments, hostility, shutting down, nagging, overthinking, or turning to other people or activities outside of the relationship. As time moves on, these behaviours lead to increasing amounts of disconnection between the two of you which is probably what brought you here!